I have NEVER heard of this band, but I can tell you this-I will be listening from now on.
When it comes to Narcissistic Personality Disorder, I know a few things, and what I know brings me to my knees. The echoes of earlier years, when she and I were close and loving. The survivor’s guilt I feel, which makes no sense as I didn’t get away unscathed-anorexia, bulimia, OCD, CPTSD, alcoholism, depression and crippling anxiety? Yet I worry about the fate of my sister, I wouldn’t be human if I didn’t.
I miss her. There, I said it. I cannot fathom going through the rest of my life without her, yet I cannot fathom my life with her. A lose-lose if there ever was one. What I would love to do is help her, but she was never one to want my assistance. I want to tell her that everything will be okay, it’s not your fault, just tell the truth and we as a family will deal with the repercussions. I want to tell her that God has broad shoulders, and that we can talk it out. I want to pick up the phone and call her, almost did the other day.
How can I have a relationship with her and remain sound of body and mind? How could I learn to trust her again? What will become of my family?
This is what victims need to come to terms with: whether you lose a lover, a mother or a friend-you are losing the idea of who you thought they were.
And if you offer a hand to help them up and out of the muck and mire? Be prepared to see them walk away, because they don’t think they need help-they don’t think they have done anything wrong. Their brain is misfiring and they will think absolutely nothing of dragging you down with them, so FIGHT, FIGHT, FIGHT to ensure that you are physically, emotionally and spiritually prepared to go to war.
Then, once you have gone no contact? Enjoy the return of your creativity, self esteem and individuality.
No one can do this for you. Just remember: you are missing the ghost of the person you thought them to be.