We are in the midst of a glorious snow storm, so I bake cookies, do research, take the pup shed hunting. I am like a child when it snows. Yesterday? We took to making a snowman, and I made snow angels, for the first time in years.
Presently, Jesse gnaws on frozen fox, I am beyond horrified, tell him to come, drop it, good boy. We hunt five square miles of prime shed territory on two different plots of land. I grumble that my hands are empty. I apologize to God, thank him profusely. I feel like a shmuck. He has blessed us abundantly, with the things that truly matter in our lives-family, a loving marriage, food on our kitchen table-the very same one as in my childhood- I simply can’t bare to replace it.
The word on the street is that dysfunctional families raise dysfunctional adults. The friends who don’t fill that shoe are few and far between. So, what happens when your very best friend is dwelling in the silent place, and you are incapable of helping her. You can’t wrap your arms around her, like you want to-because she’s a bit too restrained. She is holding you at arms length because her relationship with her father was complicated, she suffered. You are working through boundaries and self esteem issues after a life time of narcissistic abuse. You have ended lasting friendships with people who refused to take you seriously, or took you for granted.
But this girl? You just can’t shake her-you have become as close as your familial histories have allowed you to be. She has always taken you seriously, and always respected you. It just hurts too much when she forgets our plans, or fails to return numerous attempts to ask about her well being. I do not judge her for this, she is hurting and I hurt for her.
You love her and hope that she knows this.
Sometimes there isn’t an answer. Maybe you need to let go and let God.
So you decide that you will not allow her to slip away. You take a step back and give her the space she needs. You miss her, but know-deep within your very soul, that she is in the arms of the angels.
Jesus has this.